Tuesday, August 22, 2006

Elegy

We lost a good man this morning.

I thought I had finished with my tears after General Convention’s B033. I was moving on, thanks in very large measure to my involvement with The Episcopal Majority. It was enabling me to get past the hurt and anger I had felt. Working with that amazingly smart, passionate, and loving group has helped me begin to heal. Laboring alongside others who love this church of ours has helped me again to focus on the positive things that are happening and can happen in our church. I believe that was also true for my friend ToeWalker, a companion in that labor.

But we lost him this morning.

The recent words of the Archbishop of Canterbury in this interview included a comment that gay and lesbians may be “welcomed,” but not necessarily “included.” And that finally did it for ToeWalker. Perhaps those words were just the proverbial “straw that broke the camel’s back.” ToeWalker wrote in his blog yesterday, “I am sick to death of seeing ‘homosexual’ and ‘lifestyle’ and ‘abomination everywhere I turn.” No matter how brave and strong, we all have our limits – that moment when all the name-calling and the disdain and the discounting of our Christian faithfulness just get to be too much.

This morning, it cost us ToeWalker. The Episcopal Church lost him, and we are impoverished therein. The blogosphere lost a marvelous, quirky website that never ceased to amuse and inspire me. The Episcopal Majority lost the best TechnoGuru we could have wished for. And – since my e-mails aren’t being answered – it also appears I have lost a very, very dear friend.

So I’ll continue crying a while. Then I'll work all the harder to make this church a place of love and inclusion and redemption that will draw ToeWalker back.

12 Comments:

Blogger Suzer said...

I will hope and pray, perhaps, that he is just taking a much needed break from what can be the madness that is spiritual violence practiced by so many religions against GLBT people. I hope that he is simply spending his time being refreshed by God's love. And I hope he will answer your e-mails. I've been to his blog (following a comment or two) and very much enjoyed it. If he doesn't return, I wish all God's blessings and good wishes for him.

8/22/2006 7:27 PM  
Blogger ... said...

Lisa, I've sent you 4 emails throughout the day today. Aren't you able to get them?

8/22/2006 7:48 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

ToeWalker lives? Can it be?

If you are really ToeWalker: No, I got no e-mails today.

8/23/2006 3:11 AM  
Blogger january736 said...

Lisa, toewalker has been much on my mind and in my prayers. I believe I know something of how he may feel, as so many of us may. Is there anything you can say about how he is?

8/27/2006 8:22 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

January736, it's kind of you to ask. That guy really did work his way into many of our hearts in a very short time, didn't he?

Good news: He and I have been in touch, and he's better. "Better" as in not sounding so "in despair" as he did a week ago.

Of course, the sad news is, his blog is still gone. And we're all missing his "voice" in the more "public" arena.

I think he's doing what he needs to do right now. Taking care of ourselves is important at times like this. It sounds like you know that all too well, too.

8/27/2006 8:31 PM  
Blogger ... said...

Owing to the everpresent and immeasurable love and encouragement from Lisa and the blessed souls in the Episcopal Majority, Toewalker is back.

(be afraid)


(or not)

:-)

{{{Lisa}}}

9/01/2006 9:48 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

And I could not be happier!

Welcome back, ToeWalker. You have been missed!!

9/01/2006 10:20 PM  
Blogger january736 said...

Welcome back, toewalker. I am especially heartened. We need each other, we need to encourage, uphold, support each other especially now. I can feel those who would marginalize us, who would deny us our Baptismal role, I can see them smacking their lips and clapping their hands when one of us gives in to the big lie. Welcome back, bro. You were sorely missed.

9/02/2006 8:20 PM  
Blogger ... said...

Thanks so much, january (and all).

I have the sneaking suspicion those who are in vocal opposition to The Episcopal Majority are going to get very tired of me very, very soon.

Stay tuned for details.

9/03/2006 2:32 AM  
Blogger Flutegirl said...

Lisa, Toe-Walker -
Are you being held hostage by AAC/ACN operatives? The long silence is worrying me. Toe-Walker's last comment could have been interpreted as a threat to Global South and their minions and prompted a kidnapping. Tell us you're OK. We'll pay the ransom if necessary.

9/06/2006 2:20 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

Thanks for the question, FluteGirl. I have been seriously remiss on my own blog. But it's because TW & I are working on some significant developments that will soon be unveiled at The Episcopal Majority. We both have day-jobs. TEM is consuming all the other hours of my life.

Fortunately, the AAC/ACN cabal cannot lay a glove on us! But I do appreciate your offer!

9/07/2006 12:26 AM  
Blogger january736 said...

So many of us have been deeply wounded for who we are, soul wounds that are ever being poked and reopened by some of our "brothers and sisters" ("ybic"!) who want to deny us our baptismal role and heritage. Some of us were dismayed by the recent thoughts of the ABC. It is discouraging and without question is anything but life-giving to be the focus of so much hateful speculation and dialogue.But, there IS hope! (Hope= expectation, anticipation of the fulfillment of that which has already happened in God's eternal now)I recommend reading from ACNS "The Church of the Province of South Africa". We must never give over to the exclusionists the deed and title to our call to and within ministry and community.

9/11/2006 11:58 AM  

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